Hey
Thanks for the post that took guts and deserves a reply.
People assume that alcoholism just affects the alcoholic. They don’t realise the impact it has on the family, and the ripple affect it has outwards to everyone they come into contact with.
From what you have written it doesn’t sound like there is any intention of him being ready to sort himself out or get help. This means that you are going to have to work on yourself and adjusting. It won’t be easy as he is family, how you feel is natural, and you can’t just cut off – at the same time there isn’t much you can do either. It’s so difficult.
Have you ever tried Al anon for support? There will be many people in the same boat as you and this may be a good place to start