I contacted my local CAB for a support go – this one covers addictions so different experiences- there was the ex alcoholic, Father and young daughter, the parents, the girlfriends etc. So much damage, pain and love there. I have also reached out to al anon but they have not come back to me. Actually I have found Mumsnet to be extremely valuable – the women there have no time for what they call enablers that give second changes so it can be brutal. MN is where I found the suggestion to reach out locally as one of the posters said she much preferred them to al anon. One thing I noted with all these people (me for years not now) is how we centre them in our world and fail to our our own needs first. I didn’t know what my needs were towards the end so fogged up was my head. I have a long tough road ahead dealing with the fallout of this but i am at least putting myself and children first now and not his needs.
people can change. People do beat this. I have had my own issues in the past and beat them but it takes so much and someone really has to want it badly.