There is no reason for them doing this – I’ve asked my husband and over and over why he did this why he destroyed our marriage and family when there was no ‘ reason ‘ to do so – we were happy . He has no reason other than he is an addict he made the wrong decision etc etc etc it just does not wash with me – he decided to do it , the drugs did not come to him !
I have to say if your partner is not going to get clean this relationship for you can only get worse – you’ve been through an awful time with your previous relationship already – a relationship with an addict is going to be even worse – the chaos , the drama it eventually leads to desperation I’ll health stealing abuse aggression. Etc etc it’s progressive and doesn’t get better ..
My husband started off with all the symptoms you said the nose bleeds the toilet trips the sniffing I didn’t suspect for over a year and even when I found it he still denied And said I had ‘ mental health ‘ issues for accusing him . It took a family intervention and proof which was going to be shown to the police to get him to leave and I can’t tell you how relieved I was when he and his chaos finally left our home .
There is no easy way to approach it but the sooner the better and for your own sake and the sake of your future sooner rather than later – while the addict is wasting his or her life on drugs they are also pulling you down and wasting your life with them – I go to a support group which I found via this site and also have 1:1 Trauma counselling through the NHS both of which have helped me immensely – I would highly recommend getting support for yourself first and foremost so you don’t lose YOU in all of this