[plainjane]

Thank you that is very helpful, how did his family react? My husband is two very different people. And his family only knows the version that he portrays to them, which is not the person I am living with. I worry they will handle it badly as they are very naive and he will probably try to convince them that I am lying, and I can see that thry would rather want to believe that than facing the facts.

I think you must have been very brave asking him to leave. Did he just pick up his stuff then and leave? I am slightly scared of my hubby’s reaction if I ask him to leave. I think he would try to undermine me in some way, he does that when he doesn’t get his way.