Hi Clems,
Thanks for posting and sharing your story. I can imagine that what you are going through must seem like a nightmare and so difficult to know what to tell the children
If you would like to talk with someone who would understand what you are going through please contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that supports people like you who are affected by a partner’s addiction. If you contact us I can put you in touch with one of our trained and experienced people. Talking with one of them might help you to find answers to some of your questions.
You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org
All the very best to you and your family.