I haven’t been in your position. I found out hubby was an addict by chance in May during lockdown.
I gave him a chance and so far it’s working out.
I know I wouldn’t give anymore chances. If he relapses im done. He is fully aware and I am def not a soft type. Maybe some do marry softer women – but not in my case.
I think you have given him every single chance, every part of you and it’s not worked. I wouldn’t give him anything else … this is now for you and your children.
Leave/kick him out. Which ever. He will NEVER get your children if you are clean/not in your own trouble. He’s bullying you about that.
Are social services involved?
You are making the right steps by being on here. You must do what’s right for your family and not your addict partner!