Danman83 thanks for your reply.
I haven’t told my elderly parents or sisters about him. They’d worry about me. It helps to read advice and support on this forum.
I have told a close friend, so that helps.
He’s almost 28. I reckon he’s been dabbling since he was 15. The state of his room, him unkempt and untidy looking, always skint but has a good wage. He gamboled too a while back. I think he stopped that.
His meetings and sponsor told him to break away from his drinking buddies – some have been friends since school. But those guys know when to stop.
I know he gets lonely too, lives on his own has not been lucky with his choice of girlfriends.
Regarding cash spent on drugs/alcohol , he can get paid end month, and by 10th of month hes skint. He says he’s got debts to pay , and it leaves him with very little that’s when he contacts us for help. as we’re getting fed up with this routine, we withdrew a bit and that’s when he went mental at me at the weekend. Says he doesn’t want any contact any more, as we’re not supporting him when he needs us.
I think he’s probably taken out another loan now. Vicious cycle again, just when we had paid some for him and consolidated them into a monthly repayment back to us.
Can’t stop thinking about him.
I’ve been texting him daily as you suggested, no reply though.
Lx