Debc, thanks so much for your reply it means a lot. It was a difficult night for us.
No, hes never tried rehab or spoke to anyone from rehab. The price scares us and it didn’t work for his ex.
He was attending local CA meetings which he felt comfortable with, was doing the 12 steps, had a sponsor, and at best managed 3 months.
We never realised there would be relapses, and there’s been a few!
This results in him getting into debt then contacting us for food, groceries cigs etc.
He even stooped to phoning his young student sister for £30 cash transfer. She was so upset , wasn’t going to tell me. How despicable!
I’m gutted that he’s seeing his ex, she is a total leech. Her parents have put her out the house, she was in a homeless shelter for a bit. He doesn’t see that she’s only using him for a place to stay and she can drink all she wants . She’s not working , she’s sponging off him. Bad combination.
He contacted my husband today for food, don’t mind that so much. At least I know hes eating.
I text him to seek help, watch recovery videos, use a rehab app, delete all the scumbag dealers off his phone, and stay away from people who drink or use.
That’s advice that I got from this forum.
He’ll never recover if ex is still on the scene. She’s poison.
That’s for understanding.
Lx