Hi Anniemac,
I’m glad you have found this forum and Lindyloo’s right you will get good advice from people on here.
If you would like any more help please contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that provides support for people who are dealing with the addiction of a loved one. We have trained and experienced people you could talk with and maybe this would help you to find answers to your questions.
You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck.