Hi Liberty, sorry for the late reply. My partner has gone cold turkey for a couple of weeks but i think it’s only been to win me over if I’m honest with myself. Enough is enough when YOUR life is suffering and you aren’t giving up on him if he doesn’t want to be saved. I understand what you are saying, I’m going through it myself but its not healthy for us to live like this either. The thing I’m starting to ask myself is why am I so concerned about him and saving our relationship when he clearly isn’t. I’m 44 and so is he, we’re both old enough to know what’s right and wrong. I’m coming to understand that if he truly wanted to change he would. I think you need to ask yourself (as do I), what do you want from YOUR life, YOUR future and figure out if you can have this with him. Talk to him again, tell him how you feel about what he does and what your dreams and aspirations are. You know him better than anyone and you’ll know deep down if you can have the life, the future you want if you stay with him. As for regret, I honestly don’t think you would regret walking way (my opinion). Yea you’ll miss him but you can’t move forward with your life the way it is. We are stuck in limbo and only YOU can change your life, and only HE can change his.
Xxx