Hi Nothingleft,
Welcome to the Forum, where you will find many people, myself included with Sons that are all the same, addicted to alcohol and drugs.
Please don’t feel guilty, I know it’s hard not too, but like you I didn’t bring my Son up in a world of drink and drugs as I’m sure you haven’t.
Without the drink and drugs in them they are wonderful, caring people, but my god don’t they change when the drink and drugs take over.
As you say, the lies, no money and not caring is very hard to contend with, and it’s like living in hell, not knowing what to do for the best.
Does your Son realise he has a problem and does he want help? Until they realise this, I don’t really think we can help them, it has to be their decision.
Talk to people on here, read through some of the other threads, so many people in the same situation, but I know from joining this Forum, it has definitely helped me and it’s so good to be able to share your own story.
Take care of yourself. Keep in touch.
Dx