Hi Brookie
Welcome to the forum, i just wanted to know that you are not alone and someone is listening.
Everyone on this forum has a loved one who is addicted to alcohol or drugs. There’s also some people in recovery sharing their experiences and knowledge.
I’m in a slightly different position whereby its my adult son who has the addiction, so I do know what its like to be around someone who, is lying, manipulating, makes you feel like you’re in the wrong.
Its a horrible existence for them, and for us as you feel you can’t move on with your life.
Unfortunately I don’t have all the answers, but I do know that it starts and ends with him. He needs to get to a point where he wants support and seeks help.
Until that day, it will be like groundhog day.
Read the other threads, when he’s ready, there’s AA NA and CA groups he can join, mostly online at moment.
First and foremost, look after yourself and your children, put yourselves first. He will not see the devastation he’s causing, the drugs make them selfish and insensitive.
Stay in touch, im sure there will be light at the end of the tunnel.
Lx