Hi Ivy and welcome to the forum.
There are lots of people here from all over the country ( and world) who have a loved one who has an addiction. There are also people in recovery offering support and advice. So don’t feel alone in your daily struggle.
I’m sorry to read your story, it is so similar to others here. We love them as mothers, but hate what this addiction does to them, and to us. Its a very stressful and frustrating situation for all parties involved.
I don’t have all the answers, but read the other threads. Some people who post can offer advice and support, others just want someone to vent to, there will always be someone to offer you words of comfort.
We’ve been told so many times that an addict has to reach rock bottom before they feel the consequences of their actions .
As a mum this is very hard to do.
My adult son has alcohol and cocaine addictions. My heart has been broken so many times, shed so many tears over 10yrs.
He finally reached out to us a year ago. It really has to be their decision. He’s had some weeks better than others. He attended AA and CA meetings daily online now mostly. This is really helpful as they meet others who want to try and stop their addiction. They support each other too. If they are serious about stopping they start a 12 step program and maybe get a sponsor.
First and foremost look after yourself. Do 5 minutes meditation, look into ‘mindfulness ‘ go for nice walks. Just do what makes you happy, it will be easier to deal with things better.
The forum homepage has advice and support too.
I hope this helps you, please don’t worry, its not worth it.
Keep in touch
Lx