Hi Halo20 and welcome to the forum,
Everyone on this forum has been affected by alcohol and substance abuse. Either our loved ones or some people in recovery who offer wonderful advice to others.
I totally sympathise with you, im in a similar situation as my son is 27, been dabbling for 10 years, moved out but admitted (although we suspected) he had addiction to alcohol which then triggers cocaine.
Such a rollercoaster of emotions and so stressful for all involved.
Does he live alone?
I’m fortunate my son is still working, lockdown working has been a godsend.
We also paid off big debts last year, but said no more. He’s clean atm but gets anxious and fidgety come payday. All well so far.
Please don’t get stressed out , take time out for yourselves or you’ll go insane.
Don’t give him cash for anything. I usually buy groceries and cigs if I have to. Have a look at the Theresa thread…there are about 6 of us mums with sons with addictions. Its great to have the support they are lovely people even though they are heartbroken too.
The forum has a a support homepage and the Icarus trust offers support too.
No need to feel alone in this nightmare.
Always here to chat
Lx