SB2020, good to hear from you. I think Counselling is a really good thing if you get a good one, I’ve had a pretty rubbish one and an absolutely amazing one, not for the drug related relationship issues, for other things, but I see the value in it for sure. If you don’t mind me asking, are you seeing a counsellor for any specific reason? I.e… are you trying to just to help keep a clear mind, are confused about what you want, or is it something else? Xx
Yes, talking openly about addiction with my bf has been so difficult for me too. It’s something I haven’t done much of for a while tbh, for various reasons, but I used to do it almost every day and we used to really fight because of it. I did it because I wanted to catch him out, dissect his behaviour, really talk through what he was doing, make him understand how wrong it is. Like you’d do with a child. I’ve come to realise that he’s not a child, I’m usually right, he does know exactly what he’s doing to himself and when it’s me v crack, the crack always wins! Times I’ve failed are when: he’s craving it or when he’s in that argumentative and unpleasant mood. Times I’ve succeeded: when he’s high (believe it or not this is when we’ve talked the most about his addiction but I’m careful about what I ask and how) or when he knows he’s about to loose me because I’m failing to communicate with him at all he’s got soooo confrontational and I can’t take the bickering any longer.
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