Hi there I hope your managing to enjoy tenerife.
I can relate to you being called by your son whilst on holiday.
My husband his stepdad is really supportive but some days cant beleive how much I am bombarded by calls which normally involve my son asking me for something.
Fortunately I havnt been given an ultimatum. What about if you agree to only speak and see your son when your husband isnt around? Not in a secretive way but say ok I get that his calls and his situation is getting in the way of our relationship from now on i will only speak and see him when you’re not around. And I wont speak to you about any of it either…maybe that cld be a compromise. Then tell your son what his situation Is doing to your relationship and also say I’m only going to pick up your calls etc at certain times as its affecting my life. On holiday tell him you wont pick his calls up he will have to deal with life like a grown up and block his calls for 2 weeks.
I dont know if that wld work? it also means your saying I have a life and I refuse to be on call 24/7 including holidays.
I actually blocked my sons calls on Monday as it was interfering with my job and stressing me.
I think it’s ok to see boundaries. I also wldnt be able to cut off completely as I would worry.
Its positive your son has started a job that’s not easy at the moment and he is trying to sort himself.
Keep strong xx