Hi Sabin and welcome to the forum. Everyone here has been affected by a loved ones addictions. We also have people in recovery offering great advice and support.
Firstly don’t feel guilty it’s not your fault. He is a grown man who is making these choices. Nothing you can say or do at this stage will make a great deal of difference. He himself has to make the decision to change. It will be a difficult and emotional journey for all , but worth it.
The forum homepage and the Icarus trust offers advice and support. Also, if you click onto ‘share your story ‘ and read the Theresa thread, there are about 6 or 7 of us mums, all with sons with addictions. When you read it , you will no longer feel alone or upset.
My son is 27 and has alcohol and Cocaine addictions. The Cocaine is triggered by drinking any amount of alcohol. He has to completely abstain to succeed.
He has daily AA and CA meetings, mostly online and is on the 12 steps program. He meets others and a sponsor all who are a great support to him. He 30 days clean so far. There’s been relapses over the year, but I believe this is common .
Be strong, have faith and make time for yourself and others in the family. I hope this helps, there’s light at the end of the tunnel.
Always here to chat
Lx