Hi there,
I feel for you so deeply.
My partner sits up drinking alone all night and does coke on his own on the sly. I had to walk out due to the stress and anxiety making me very ill.
He says it’s me who has changed and that he is fine, doesn’t have a problem even though he can’t go three days without drugs and alcohol. He is short with his kids, tired, lazy and grumpy because of withdrawal or hangovers constantly.
He has turned on me making me the enemy and bringing up the couple of times I’ve had one or two beers or when I used to do a bit of coke myself to deflect.
It is so, so hard and I’m sorry you are going through this.
On a positive note, he has acknowledged at least once that there is an issue. Getting over that denial is a huge step. If it is addiction backslides may occur. I hope he gets some professional help and I hope you can take good care of yourself too as that is so important. You are not alone! X