Yes you are explaining well I’ve been on nights so probably that’s why I didn’t understand at first.
Your exactly right I don’t want to be enabler. It’s so hard he took my car again today he said he’d be a matter of minutes it was hours again I tried not to lose my cool and I succeeded until later on when we went to pick up his meds and he left me 2 miles knowing I have work tonight it had 54 mile left so I was fuming. And went a rant about how selfish he is. I knew I lost the battle he did his silent battered puppy look. No apology no nothing which just infuriates me more.
He doesn’t have anyone yet his family is huge.
That’s really good that he can speak to his dad after that. That proves there is still decent person there. If you know what I mean. People make assumptions that all drug users are horrible or bad but the drugs take them down a horrendous path but somewhere in there is still the nice person. They aren’t bad people they’ve made a decision that cost them a lot.
One thing I’d like him to stop and think about but God knows when it’ll happen is to ask calmly what have you gained from this habit what is the good things it’s brought to you ? And now the bad, what has this habit cost you not in money but what have you lost by having this habit ?
That is what I really want to know. I want to know what amazing things these drugs has done for him.
Like you I know if I wasn’t around disaster would strike. But at the moment I’m failing to see how much worse it could get. Maybe because I’m working with very little sleep I feel this way.
I really can’t live another year like this.
I’m glad I’ve been able to help/support you although I’m sure how I have.
Stay safe and take care of yourself always here if you need to chat I dont know what would of happened to me without you honestly. X