Hi SH12, I am also new here. I am trying to make sense of what happened in my life in the past year. My ex partner (we were together for 8 years) was going through a stressful time at work and he started to change. He became cold, distant, he was not sleeping or eating properly. Sometimes he was up working until 4am, some other times he was out with this new bunch of people from work that became his best friends. He started to say he was unhappy, unloved; he was hiding his phone, he started to lie to me. It was like having a complete stranger in front of me. He used to be the most loving and sensitive man and he just became a cold different person. Long story short, with the lockdown, we found ourselves living separately and he ghosted me. 8 years together and he disappeared completely. He ghosted his long term friend as well and he has less contacts even with his parents and kids. He was diagnosed with depression, but I have the feeling drugs were involved. I knew that these new friends used cocaine pretty often. I was wondering, did you notice anything similar with your husband? How do you think he started? It’s great that he opened up to you and he is seeking help. That’s very positive!
