Hi Sarah
Welcome to the forum. There are so many of us mums with sons (mostly sons) and family with addictions. When you read the threads, you won’t feel alone.
Click onto ‘share your story ‘ and read the Theresa thread , there are about 6 or 7 of us mums with sons going through the same as you.
I totally sympathise with you and your family, we’ve been there too.
My son is almost 28 with alcohol and cocaine addictions (dabbling with drugs for around 10yrs)
Been through the lies, manipulating, debt, sick days at work, aggression etc. All our fault of course!
My son reached out last year, went to doc, started daily AA and CA meetings (online now), git a sponsor, met others he could relate to, recovering addicts…so much support.
Hes currently 6 weeks clean, it’s so hard for them, but easier to support them when they trying to stop. Don’t get me wrong, he’s had some relapses over the year, but they have to be strong. Give up their drinking and drug buddies, delete the scumbag dealers numbers. My son said that alcohol triggers the need for cocaine, so abstinence is the only answer.
It really does begin and end with them, they have to make the choice to get clean, otherwise you’re wasting your time.
It’s hard to put them out of house, but needs must sometime, for your own sanity. Take time fir yourselves, these are his choices not yours, no more cash,.
I just bought groceries and cigs when necessary. You could go on forever paying their debts otherwise.
Try not to worry, things can change for the better, but your son has to make that choice.
Sending you virtual hugs
Always here to chat
Lx