Hi Lea3545,
This sounds similar to my situation. My dad has substance issues but is too stubborn to get help whenever we offer. He will quit for a week or two, just like you said, but always goes back. And also just like you said, when he’s sober, things between us are great, but when he isn’t, it causes me so much stress and anxiety that I hate to be around him.
We just convinced him to quit again after an incident landed him in the hospital this past week; we were hoping for rehab, but he only agreed to quitting and going to meetings. I’m scared it won’t last, just like it never has before.
I don’t know if I really have advice, since I’m struggling through it too. But I do relate, and it’s kinda hard to find someone who gets it. I’ve found it’s best to be supportive when you can and tough when you need to be. I hope your mom realizes how she’s hurting you before it’s too late.
You are not alone 🙂