Hi Deb,
Thank you so much for your reply.
I do think I’m going to end the relationship as I can’t see things changing while he is friends with this same group – he is 28 now and shows no signs of stopping or slowing down. I would never tell him who he can or can’t be mates with so I think it’s best for me to just remove myself from the situation completely.
I did not have to seek treatment for my anxiety until I was with him so I’m wondering if this whole situation made it worse. His behaviour is also erratic and I never know where I stand with him. One minute he will tell me how much he loves me and the next I’m ‘so judgemental and need to loosen up a bit and I’m apparently ‘highly strung’ for having these concerns.
It’s been a huge burden for a while now and I can’t cope with it anymore, especially because he now argues with me a lot and puts less effort into our relationship.
Again, thank you for your advice and I hope your son continues to do well with his recovery.
Best wishes,
Laura