Hi,
I’m sorry to hear what you are going through at the moment.
If you would like some help please contact us at The Icarus Trust as we are a charity that offers support to the families around the addict. We have experienced people you could talk with who would be able to let you know what other help is available for both you and your partner. Maybe talking would help to answer your questions.
You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck.