Hi Skat,
I think being an addict is an illness, but there are meetings that they can join, counsellors that they can talk too, sometimes you have to pay, but if they really want help they will do anything.
Definitely starts with the alcohol then goes on to the cocaine, so to stop this they have to have total abstinence, which is obviously the hard part for them.
My Son is a Dad with a little girl of 4, he’s a good dad, but when he was at his worst he was awful, and played at being a Dad really. He has her in the week for tea and every other weekend, I suppose it helps because he lives with me.
About talking to his Mum, at least she knows that he has been taking cocaine, so she won’t be so shocked to hear that he is still taking it, although you said he’s been ok for 3/4 weeks which is great and so much better to live with, but you are always waiting for that time when they do it again, some people never do and have a great recovery. I would just say it as it is to his Mum, you can’t really sugar coat cocaine, I’m sure she will be upset but at least she will be prepared if she has to support him and you could always introduce her to Adam.
I hope this helps. Keep in touch.
Take care.
Dx