Heya M2u,
I can vouch for everything you’re saying… It started off as innocent young drinking together for the both of us…
Then the novelty wore off for me too… I do enjoy an occasional tipple now and then but this past 12 to 18 months it’s been hidden bottles and can everywhere and relentless drinking every night… The lying as well… That gets worse and you might reach a stage of not caring because he’s told so many.. Be careful as that’s a slippery road…
You’re husband and mine… They’re coping using alcohol… My husband has a whole wealth of mental health issues that have surfaced. including drunken induced self harm.. he didn’t know it at the time but alcohol was and still is a coping mechanism…
It takes something life changing to make them stop and say ‘ I need help, I have a problem’
I watched something recently that brought it home for me… Someone who is willing to admit they have a problem’ and that they might slip up is ready for help… Those who say they don’t have a problem’ won’t get help until something whacks them metaphorically whacks them in the face.