Coco1212, it does take years. Perhaps try and relax a bit more, I think hearing that the support workers have such a positive view is encouraging. It’s been what, 2 months surely there’s been progress in thar time, I just know there has.
Also, I think you’re like me in that you try and live some else’s problem so as to fix it. Offering him advice as to what to say could be seen in more ways than one. On one hand you’re a rational, sensible mind administering logical advice, but on the other he may see this as you trying to mother him. It’s such a fine line. That’s the case for my bf and I. I do have to try hard to be positive or not speak at all, but I’m a firm believer in we have to let people make their own mistakes.
What you said about emotional blackmail keeps with me, you’re so right. Apparently I’m lucky to have him as my bf, even though he’s an addict. I’m just not listening to that anymore. Not in a nasty way, but I’d like come on, get real.
Are you taking any time off for Christmas? Seems like a little break might do you the world of good xx