Hi Coco
I am in exactly the same place right now.
My kids are both very anxious and resent their dad.
You can see them rolling their eyes at him when he talks.
My eldest suffers from OCD and it’s really bad at the moment, even his school is worried about him.
What do I say? It’s because their dad is a drug addict.
When I tell him how bad it is with the kids, he gets all defensive and makes out it me turning the kids against him and they wouldn’t know anything if it wasn’t for me. It’s just not fair on the kids and my heart is breaking at how badly it is affecting them both.
The other Friday we went out as a family to a retail park so one of the kids could spend their birthday money and as soon as we got home from a nice evening of us all laughing and being happy, he was wanting money. It caused a massive arguement and totally ruined the evening for the kids and I. He woke up the next day as if nothing had happened which wound the kids up even more.
He expects them to know there is a consequence for your actions (not being able to go on your playstation, if you don’t do you homework) but doesn’t face the consequences for his actions.
I too just wish he would move out and let the kids and I have a normal life.
I am constantly looking at house rentals but until I change my job ( I can’t do this until the youngest leaves primary school in July), i have no chance of affording a place on my own.
It’s just a vicious circle.
Big hugs xx