Hi Failedmam
My heart goes out to you.
Stay strong I know it’s hard. Our natural instinct tells us to protect and support as I’m sure you have done. I did the same.
My son is 29 I have now had enough so I threw him out and he did wonder the streets for a while. He is with me only because he has a jaw infection but I have got him a room and he will now be going to stay there from next week.
No one can tell you what to do but carry on using Adfam and trust what they say they have been fantastic.
My son is in disbelief abt what I’m doing. I’m doing it because.i love him and I need to stop enabling him. Stay at mums don’t have to work smoke weed and drink. My biggest mistake is that I did not do it earlier. It’s hard as you worry but I had to think abt my life . If he has money for weed and drink then he can use it now for lodgings.
Btw you are not a failed mam it’s there choice not yours!
I also recently joined a group who help families and they have been fantastic they to understand what we go through.
One thing be prepared to be upset I cried everyday but I feel stronger and fingers crossed changing things time will tell for the better. I don’t expect the next few months to be easy but I just think I have no choice but to do this. I could not see him on the street so given him an olive branch now his choice to change.
Keep getting support and stay strong.