Reply To: My partner is recovered but I am traumatised

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lindyloo
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Hi Simylou,

He’s been clean just over 60days, he managed 3 months last year, but a broken relationship triggered a relapse.

I understand the generation today drink more and many take drugs, unfortunately my son has an addictive personality. Whatever he does, he does it 100%. Alcohol, drugs, sex , he used to gamble too about 10yrs ago. I think it’s a mental health issue, like OCD .

He can’t get any assessment at doctor until he’s 6 months clean.

My son gets aggressive too, I think years of dabbling in drugs and alcohol cause this and anxiety and paranoia.

I’m hoping this will improve the longer he stays clean.

Your boyfriend is very lucky to have a caring and supportive gf like you, many would not have put up with what you’ve dealt with.

Love the person, hate the addiction is the motto I guess!

When he’s in a good frame of mind, you should let him know that he hurts you sometimes. They often don’t realise as cocaine desensitises them. My son learned that from the Meetings .

Find time for yourself, do 5 minutes meditation from mobile phone it helps the anxiety. Do things that make you happy.

Stay strong, sending

hugs

Lx

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