sounds like a tough situation you are in, and of course having other children to protect means you can’t do much differently as you have them to think about too.
people in denial that don’t want to admit they are wrong will blame everything on anyone but themselves,
you can try and be there and get the blame, and if you try not being there because they push you away so much, they will then blame the whole problem on that instead.
The people around the addict are victims of the addiction just as much as the user but we are the ones that have to be strong,
sometimes I feel like I don’t have the strength left to deal with it anymore and none of us deserve to be tested like this.
seeing posts on here really helps though as you soon realize your scenario is pretty similar to so many others, addiction just seems to bring out the same monster in all of its victims, and often its hard to separate the person you love from the addict they have become.