Hi JJanon and welcome to the forum. Everyone here has a loved one with some form of addiction.
It’s good to share your concern of worries with others in similar situations.
I’ve been on threads before talking about my 28 yr old son who has alcohol and cocaine addictions. I thank God that he is currently 60odd days clean atm.
However I wanted to mention that I had an elderly relative, also a widow who had a dependency on drink. She took it in the evening to help her sleep. However i noticed over a period of time that she was sleeping late into morning, not getting dressed, not motivated etc.her memory was also poor.
She was in her late 70s by then, I noticed she was buying about 3litres of gin a week! I asked her about it and she said to help her sleep. I realised that she was drinking it neat with only dilute juice to flavour it! She didn’t seem to think it was an issue, but it was messing with her health. I got her to doctor who had a word. Explained the danger of drinking to excess especially at her age.
After several months, it became a real problem, doctor said she would need hospital to help her ‘detox ‘ . She refused but agreed to do it from home under our supervision for about 3 weeks.
She never took another drink after that, but unfortunately her mobility made her housebound and couldn’t venture out anyway.
I don’t know if that helps you any, I think its become a bad habit that’s turned into an addiction. She probably doesn’t think it’s an issue.
When it affects her daily way of life and health maybe she will seek help. Until then it’s hard to get them to stop. Like other addictions here, the user has to realise themselves that there is a problem.
I understand how frustrating it can be for you all. I hope you find a solution. Adfam has support, and reading the other threads are informative too.
Take care
Lx