The doctor is a good suggestion, but the issue is she doesn’t drink to a level that any doctor would admit is dangerous. Sure, I’m sure more than the recommended units some times, but units wise on a daily, weekly or monthly basis, it’s not an unusual level.
We have tried to insist on a psychologist in the past, but at the time she laughed it off, but offered not to drink like that if it upset us and worried us. That lasted 3 months or so.
There is something child like about her attitude to it. Like a child caught having sweets before dinner.
At this stage we aren’t trying to get her to stop drinking. We are trying to get her to stop taking herself off, drinking a high volume alone, and then rejoining us.
Its like a tug of war at the moment. She tries to get us accept the behavior because she says it doesn’t stop her doing something and we are repeatedly saying it isn’t normal and that she does it on those rare occasions we are there and she knows it hurts us is the issue.
I’m thinking we need to refuse to visit until she agrees not to do it more.