Coco1212, you are not stupid. No one could ever call you that, you’re so far from stupid it’s unreal. You’ve kept your head, you’re managing what’s happening, it’s a situation beyond your control, and you’re controlling the tiny bits you can. Like the replacement Christmas presents.
Him getting his own place sounds a very sensible solution. You and your kids need a greater level of distance and protection than you have now. Having him move away from the family home is a very good idea. How can you facilitate that?
Totally behind you all the way xxx
Christmas is a difficult time for most as it is, you’ve got triple nightmare of this. It won’t be forever, life will improve. I am totally behind you.
Perhaps even a move away from the family home will do him good, finally let him see what it’s like to be away from the family unit. It could go either direction to the extreme, I suspect perhaps even both. You’ve done all you can while he’s been there with you, you’ve supported him so much, there’s honestly only so much you can do. Like I said before, people have to fix their own problems, there’s only so much the rest of us can help with. If he’s not doing that, it’s totally on him and you and the kids can’t keep suffering in this way.