Hi Mel86,
Welcome to the Forum, I bet you feel better for getting that off your chest.
I am the Mum of an addict, alcohol and cocaine, my son is doing ok at the moment, but I lived with the problem for 10 plus years before he decided he needed help, and they have to be the ones who decide if they want help.
My Son has been in rehab twice, but it costs an awful lot of money. They were brilliant at the place where he went, all recovering addicts themselves, but such lovely, warm people.
Your Brother sounds as if he has a good job with very good money, so this of course funds his habit, it’s an expensive hobby, and an evil drug.
It’s very sad that he doesn’t spend time with your Dad, but I should imagine that’s his guilt. My Son doesn’t have a very good relationship with his own Dad, but like I tell him, you only have one Dad and when they are gone you will then realise.
Do you think your Brother wants help, does he think he has a problem?
The Icarus Trust would be a good place to get in touch with, you can talk to people who know exactly what you are going through.
Keep in touch on here, take care of yourself first.
Dx