Yes, I researched assiduously, and talked to professionals in the field, they have several adverse psychological situations, the drug is the escape valve. In my case, he has a conduct disorder, killed an animal with a friend at the age of 13, the family neglected love and only had and has money to offer. You need to understand that the more you know about their disease, the more you will see how manipulative they are, especially the good parts, read the cases here, how terrible they are, there is a husband sniffing cocaine in the car with his young son in the back!
I was raised by a narcissistic mother, so I try to hold on to the crumb of attention and love, and they like attention, and being victims (of themselves, in fact). You need to understand its mechanism of weakness, to avoid the drug, to avoid it. It’s about you, take your eyes off her for about 10 minutes, write down who you are, and who you want by your side! Don’t go through the bar door if you are an alcoholic. Understood? Apply this knowing your weakness for her, you are not her savior, and you will get lost in the process of your life by someone who wants to die on the drug.
There is a study that says that even without the drug the disorder remains in them, it is a neurological disorder, where the brain, parts of it, does not work well with empathy, sense of judgment, and feelings. Be careful, make no mistake, when they are out of drugs, they come back to her worse than before.
About the good times, I also had good times, but if you really look, it’s like 10% good and 90% bad, but yours and my reward mechanism in the brain, inverts and thinks the good times were 90% and the bad 10%, working the same way they do with cocaine: they use something that kills, that damages the brain, micro lesions with each use, liver, heart, risk of stroke, heart attack, and the hours of pleasure for them are 90% good, and the risks are 10%
When in fact, the risks are 90% and the amount of pleasure in such a short time is 10%, there is more side effect, than the pleasure it causes. But the accubens core, only makes them feel that it is very worthwhile. They have to have a huge problem, the bottom of the pit, as many have mentioned here, to improve. And a lot of willpower !!! Think, you only have one life, it’s killing hers, do you want to go along?