did you say your husband does normally work,
Does alcohol effect jobs or does he manage to hide it from work?
my girlfriend works in a school, and I do believe she is good at her job,
that’s the weird thing with her habits in that it mainly just effects the evening and also because they are so good at lying to themselves and hiding the problem they are therefore able to go about most people without it being noticed.
I think with most addiction and mental health issues the person is very self absorbed, so the attention thing could be true, like they are so wrapped up in themselves and always turn everything about them.
My girlfriend thinks she is the most hard done by person in the world half the time, the other half actually realises how good life is and how lucky she is to have all the nice things and opportunity, but the miserable addict in them sees everything in the negative.
I don’t know what music you like but as I was discovering my girlfriends coke problems earlier this year I was reading a book by singer Mark Lanegan, and weirdly found some comfort in his words.
He spent most of his life addicted to one thing then another mostly heroin and watched a lot of friends die etc, his book is very self absorbed and quite brilliantly shows into the mind of an addict, as he is writing it 20 odd years sober he is very open and honest about addiction in a way most addicts wont ever be or not at least until they are clean, so it is a good read to hear someone openly admit how selfish their addiction is and how unapologetic they are for it.
His music is much the same really, I don’t know why I listen to it but i’ve always liked depressing music ha.