I think he always drank heavily at times but never to the extent that he cannot get out of the situation unless he receives medical treatment. I myself can admit as many can that when the shit is hitting the fan and stress is heavy we will self medicate with a couple glasses of wine. I actually stop having a drink when he is drinking, maybe I have to never drink again as that is unhelpful though I do not drink all the time anyway. Maybe he feels truly loved as he says for the first time so feels I won’t leave him, his relationship with his ex was a practical one that was agreed so they could both have a child rather than fell head over heels as we did. Or maybe he’s spun me a load of shit as I no longer trust my own judgement, although I have never been so foolish in other aspects I still wonder if it’s me.
Your family sound amazing! My family are close and supportive in many ways, however my mother has never been able to deal with her feelings properly and has always lost her shit when she is upset, her first go to is to blame me for being stupid rather than supporting me. She was drunk when she came over Xmas eve and was yelling at me and saying she couldn’t understand why I was being so calm. I calmly explained that my Xmas was ruined but it didn’t mean the children’s had to be and if I get upset and angry that would be the result. She continued and continued while helping me wrap the final presents until I eventually broke down and then she softened. She could of said all those things after and just supported the fact I needed to complete Xmas for the kids sake but her feelings came first. I know it’s her way but it stops me reaching out to her.