I got the impression you had broken away from your partner Dre80, as you seem so self aware and also aware of addiction and how it works. Are you still emotionally tied to them?
I once mentioned to a friend how many days I’d not seen my partner and she said ‘listen to yourself, counting the days – like an addict.’ And that’s what it is, an addiction. Only ours isn’t to drugs or alcohol or some illicit substance, it’s to a toxic person, an unhealthy relationship. I wonder, how many times have we been baffled how our loved one can keep going back to someone so unhealthy and damaging to them.
May I ask you guys this… have you experienced any of the following as a result of your relationship with an addict:
* disturbed sleep pattern
* disturbed appetite
* Stress/anxiety/depression/low sense of self-worth/low esteem
* physical illness (stomach problems/headaches/loss of appetite)
* mood swings
* mental decline
* financially impacted
* your work/family life affected
I’m gonna hazard a guess and say you have experienced pretty much all of the above. All of the above are some of the symptoms of drug abuse.
Shocked?
I experienced all of the above in three years of fighting to help an addict. I was less with such a low sense of worth that when a man paid me a compliment, I started crying. I believed I was worthless. I had put up with abuse, anger, mood swings, lies, disappointment – and my health (mental and physical) suffered.. declined.. until I was so weak I could take no more. I’ve never suffered physical abuse but mental abuse can be so much more long lasting.
I have walked away. My partner is waiting to go into rehab and still texts me. He has called me twice. I don’t answer his calls. I don’t answer his texts. I won’t see him or speak to him. I have REMOVED his ability to abuse me, because I simply won’t engage with him now. He will NEVER get another opportunity to sit in a restaurant and – in front of friends – tell me I ‘might as well f*** off’… he will never get the chance to lie to me. I will never again be on the end of his mood swings or his pathetic excuses or lies.
I rebuild myself each day and I pray for you guys on here, that you also find the strength to do the same, before you waste anymore of your precious life.