Hi Everyone I haven’t been on the site for nearly 2 years but got a notification via email so thought I would reply and let you all know the outcome.
It’s not pretty I am afraid!! My advice is run and run away as fast as you can and do not look back.
I am living proof that no matter what you do they will not change or stop it’s impossible (Maybe a few stories you may hear of people recovering but very few!)
I have just come out in the other side after 2 years, my story got so much worse and the things I found out he had done etc I won’t go into them as I know how your feeling now and it won’t help. I am divorced now aswell.
There was nothing absolutely nothing I could have done, I may as well have smashed my head into a brick wall and got better sense.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome, that’s the world your living in now, sorry to be blunt.
They will always see you as the problem so it really doesn’t matter what you do so my advice and really take what I am saying is run, save so much pain and headache and look after yourself and your families.
I lost 4 stone, nearly lost my mind, blamed myself, I have lived a total living hell. Please don’t do the same.
I have realised that I was as addicted to him as he was to drugs and I was so codependent.
I can honestly say my life is so much better now, I left a great career and bought a little cafe, I am single but learning to love me and be on my own as I am not ready to be with anyone. That’s another piece of advice don’t rush into any relationships if you do leave, whatever hurt your feeling you will take to the next.
I really wish you all well and it breaks my heart to hear your stories.
By the way my ex is “apparently” clean now living with a woman who has funded a new business???? things don’t change they just move to another person. I wish you all the luck in the world.xx