it’s widely accepted that until an addict hits rock bottom, they won’t do anything to change their situation. My partner even said it to me.. ‘I had to hit rock bottom to realise what I’ve done’ – did it stop him using? Nope. He is still using now, knowing he is going into rehab, and knowing he has already lost me.
From what you’ve said, it doesn’t sound like your girlfriend feels she has a problem at all.. and therein lies the problem! As I said, she may never feel she has a problem. A lot of addicts don’t. I’ve seen heroin addicts hobbling along, having lost a leg or suffering horrendous health problems and they still won’t contemplate stopping. Women have lost children, men have lost jobs, wives… NOTHING stands in the way of them and their addiction. It’s their one true love and they will always put the drugs before you. Difficult not to take personally, but that’s addiction.
Once you have your own space, you will find it easier to think better about things, a little more dispassionately. Or you will keep going back for me until you are so tired, weary and abused that you start hating her, and what she’s done to you. It’s a sorry, thankless road.