And similar to mine. My husband was the ‘star pupil’ at rehab and came out telling me how well he’d done but within days he was drinking again. He blamed the rehab for not doing a good job! He’s never really stopped since- he has short periods when I can tell he’s not drinking but then something happens and he starts again. The wobbly you mention is always a give away…. He hasn’t admitted to himself that he still has a problem – I know for a fact he has attended more than one zoom AA meeting whilst drinking.
The advice I was given by the rehab place when I contacted them was to look after yourself and your children and to make sure you put yourself and your family first. They also told me to make sure I didn’t continue enabling his drinking and that the decisions he made were his and there was very little I could do to change things
It is the most horrible feeling when you realise that all that hope and hard work hasn’t changed things. I guess it doesn’t mean that it will never change but that depends on the person.
Take care of yourself and best wishes