that is probably wise,
I wish I could be as strong and wise as you with it all.
as for self indulgence I wouldn’t worry too much about that, after all this site is made up of posts of people writing how the addict has made them feel. I’m as guilty of that as anyone, as it’s all been bottled up this is the place where it all spills out.
and that’s the thing with the addict, they turn everything about them so us partners feelings are always neglected.
my partner is in the stage of being content with destroying everything more.
I don’t know if she ever would start acting like yours is, like trying to contact me and get me back,
I can’t see it really, I think she is too stubborn to do that and will just convince herself that she doesn’t need me in her life as she is no doubt seeing me as the problem rather than herself.
But maybe I’m wrong and in time she would surprise me.