I think it is the sense of closure that can never be obtained that is the hardest part.
the endless things I could say to her and the kids to try and make them see sense, but ultimately its all futile, they just will not open their eyes.
of course time and things going from bad to worse might eventually open them for them, but it is so hard to stand back and say and do nothing, and I’m convinced they all somehow think I’m the bad guy in all this so it’s like I want to defend my character but of course I can’t and nothing can actually be gained by doing so.
I feel like contacting her mum and brother and sister etc, all people who I’m sure would care and see it from my point of view and want her to stop this self destruction and for her daughter to stop playing an active role in it,
but again I know that their words to her would be as useless as mine, and that they would end up falling out with her as she would just cut them all out too.
I think you said before but I forget after reading so many stories etc
you were with your addict partner 3 years but how long ago did you split up, I think you said you had a few breaks on and off before this final time.