I can believe all of that about it being the toughest thing anyone can do.
if you look up toxic behavior, most of it is pretty much the same as how an addict behaves,
how they are experts at making the other person do all the leg work and always make the other person insecure and to think they have done something wrong.
it really is very controlling
that’s the irony of it all, my girlfriend’s main argument with me wanting her to sort herself out is she turns it round to make out like I’m trying to control her.
where as in reality the emotional control is very much the other way round, I am totally submitted to her.
But I guess over time we get stronger so I have been more vocal back and tried to reclaim some of the balance, and of course they don’t like that as it shows their power over you is weakening if you start to fight back.
she deludes herself to think I want this power, I have said to her, “do you really think I take any pleasure in having to try and make sure you aren’t stealing money from your son” as if this is a measure that should ever need to be taken.
of course I no longer have any power to check this isn’t happening, but on that last day I said I don’t care if she does anymore as it’s her conscience that has to live with this behavior not mine.