Yep, mentally is the word! For him and for you. I suppose his mental health has altered to a point that you can’t really help I guess and when someone has been so affected by an addiction that it makes decisions for them then it’s time to make that hard call. I’m sure by the sounds of it you want that better life without that pain! I know it’s a hard decision but it will be one that you have to make eventually and as the years fly you will be more and more affected and eventually you will break. It’s easy for someone to advise if your not in that situation but one day you will be happy but not in a 3 way relationship with drugs being the 3rd. Addiction is a horrible condition and it’s sad but when you experience it you very rarely forget it, it’s the most important thing in his life and that’s why he needs you as a friend from a distance. I do hope you manage to live a free life as you sound like such a caring person. Take care and try to enjoy what little life we have left
