Hello! I have just replied to someone in a very similar situation so this is not that unusual and I’m sure you know that. Don’t feel like your alone especially if you read some of the stories on this site and talking to friends and strangers will definitely help. Anyway, I’m sure you don’t need telling that alcohol is a drug! and absolutely the worst drug available to humanity so using it on a regular basis is definitely a way of medicating. If your partner is at the stage of drinking more than twice a week it is proven that it’s a problem and hiding it is the signal for danger ⛔️ I know that this for a fact as my childhood was surrounded by sneaky alcoholics. He almost DEFINITELY has a problem and needs professional help and not just a talk around the dining table because alcohol has a grip stronger than any other drug, it is absolutely evil and don’t let the critics convince you otherwise. You can’t expect yourself to fix him because your not a professional and even though he’s you love he still needs alcohol and that need can often and mostly alway be greater than your relationship. You can’t win a fight against an addict because they always win and if they don’t they argue louder and make any excuses to storm away for a fix. Personally I would ban alcohol tomorrow because it destroys families and kills so many people. I feel for you because you have and are being affected by this addiction so making a decision is very difficult. You know the term (nip it in the bud) well it’s easier said than done but if you can find the courage to give him the opportunity to get some professional help I think you can save you own life ????
