sounds like you are being more realistic than me,
at least you are committing to the idea that he is the ex.
whereas I am foolishly still hoping that the good person she is inside there somewhere will come back and realise what a mess she is making and want to sort things out.
although that said, I don’t ever expect things to go back to what they were, so I haven’t gone completely mad.
what’s the latest with you, is he accepting it and leaving you alone?