Hi Roses,
Men don’t make any sense just as much as women and my wife has had to cope with my Crazy for years! The wedding ring throwing is something that people do and usually think it works but all it does is punch your partner in the heart ???? he very well maybe up to something and I think you know that you need to prepare yourself for that as the one single thing that helped escalate this is ALCOHOL ???? it’s horrible and it damages everything and everyone, it’s a drug! The worst drug. He almost certainly needs some help for his mind his addiction and it’s definitely an addiction regardless of what he may think. He’s self medicating and this reason could be one of many things and getting professional help maybe his only option, he will probably poo poo that idea as most men do but not knowing what he’s up to is naturally worrying for you and not a great environment for your children. I wish I could say he’s not doing anything horrible that would affect your trust but I can’t and he’s the only one that can tell you that so starting with the alcohol is your direction is guess. Remember that it’s not your fault and you sound like a loving and caring wife that wants a stable environment, but when a partner has an addiction or a mental health issue you can’t really cure them because your not a professional. More often than not people are stuck in this kind of situation until they grow old and the kids leave home but if you feel safe enough to approach this then do so because you don’t want to be sad. Life it too short to be sad especially in uncertain times. Don’t let his action affect yours regardless of how many years you have been together because your still a person with feelings.