Hi YorkieMum,
It’s truly something to be proud of that you’re trying to get help. Talking to your husband is the best idea, honesty is extremely important. I am in my 20s and as a child of an alcoholic the lying is the most painful aspect.
As for AA and help, I always found AA’s manifest to be unhelpful and a bit patronising. Speaking to your GP is always a really good option, there are lots of treatment options for people who want to get better. Even if you don’t feel that you are an ‘alcoholic’ opening up lines of communication with your loved ones and professionals is the best step to take,
I wish you all the best x